Strange as it sounds, I think you messed up on your second last move, move 54. I believe 54. f4 wins for you! It might be the only winning move on move 54.
I just wanted to point out that Arek's trmph link (that lazyplayer is also using at some point) is slightly different from the actual game. This position is not equivalent to this position, because the latter allows a potential black threat at h7, like this.
shalev, well, then white does this, then what? but it's true i've not checked all lines, i just say, on principle, i think this should be correct way to play :P
As shalev has pointed out - in trmph I presented the correct line which I forgot to use in the actual game. i7 was basically a free improvement on that position.
For shalev's error I think the most suspicious move was 17.g10. Earlier moves I cannot criticize at all, on the other hand later moves I think are more less forced. 19.e10 probably made no difference at all, but I cannot say for sure.
Btw yes now it seems I blundered at 54. I've been dreadfully confused by this game's ending and everything looked like a total mess to me. I hate losing in such way, but at least I keep confidence in my intuitive evaluation because I was very sure it should be my win.
Lazyplayer, for d7, I discovered it mostly by desperation. Basically the d8 stone ended up being annoyingly well positioned. The natural way to attack it was with b10 or b8, but I think they seemed to lose in my calculations. d7 is sort of a weird alternative attack. It successfully disconnects the e2e3e4 cluster (see lines like this or this). I think I'm pretty happy with that move, though I don't think it can save the game at that point.
It did end up creating enough confusion that I was able to steal the win, I guess. I feel a bit guilty for winning by trickery... sorry Arek!
yes d8 seems very good, i often distrust moves like it but i guess here the distrust in this case is wrong (perhaps because white has nothing else to decently connect to left)
I played my best and lost, so full congrats to shalev. Confusion play is just another way of good play so d7 was a very good one.
During the game lazyplayer strongly criticized d8 for being overloaded. I think it's ok because white don't really use it from different angles at the same time. White only threaten to use it from either one or another angle. This should work fine.
Arek, i would fit d8 into my own way of thinking by saying that the most important thing was to connect your central stuff to left... it's true that by connecting it to left, it becomes harder to connect top-left to left, but this doesn't matter, because (with help of center) you then gain another tempo on top-right... well, something like this.
And yeah, we discuss the games while they go, but only general principles, i absolutely don't work out specific lines for him. If i had worked out specific play for him he wouldn't blunder at end, hahah! shame on you for losing in this silly way! :)